So a little more detail about yesterday.  We are super worried about all the swelling Carol has.  That is the issue we addressed with the RN yesterday.  He was really nice.  But we know all that swelling can become life threatening if it goes unchecked.  And the issue has been neglected for too long.  So he assured us they would make some adjustments in her meds and start monitoring her fluid levels last night.  If the doc saw how badly swollen she is now, the doc might not let her go home in that condition and may stick her back in the hospital. So we are really hoping they can figure out what is going on with it and resolve the problem.  

I hadn't been to the Villa before.  It is really pretty.  Very homey.  Plus the staff was really nice.  Bill said he wouldn't mind being there if he needed to go to a nursing home.  And I guess Ted was comfortable there too.  

The other thing was the social worker was there and talked about Dove going to the house to take care of her nursing needs.  EO said he was going to have to talk to the family and figure out the plan for taking care of the house cleaning, as well as day to day needs and determine what specifically Dove should do.  Because, Dove will do everything, such as dress and grooming, house cleaning and nursing.  The thing is, the insurance will pay for a certain number of days, and Dove will use up all those days, as quick as they can.  But if you remove the house cleaning and maybe the dress and grooming, and only have them for nursing care (changing the dressing and blood pressure check and so on) then that can be stretched out so if she still needs nursing help during her Chemo treatments they will still be around for that whole time.  

We have done this so many times with my mom and with myself.  So when Dove comes out to assess her needs we have to specifically say, "JUST NURSING" and/or whatever else Carol may want.  And to just be firm with what we want for Carol, as sometimes they can been a little pushy about what they want to do.  

EO says both Bill & Carol want her to stay there as long as she needs to so that when she does go home, she can get up by herself and do a number of things herself.  Even though to me, I know she wouldn't be hard to take care of, they haven't experienced that before and don't really know what to expect.  And what is important is that they both feel she is physically ready to go home.  Each day she gets a little stronger and can do a little more and not have so much pain, so it shouldn't be too long anyways.

So the plan is in motion for EO's 25th anniversary gift.  I am so excited and;.. I am just having so much fun teasing EO.  I have never surprised him like this with a gift.  He always picks out his own gift and it is normally something to do with hunting and fishing.  I have been giving him little clues, like "it is on our list of ..."if only I had the money"".  And it is something that we are going to need to do real soon anyways.  And it is something I can't do on my own so I have to have help to do it.  And the kids are going in on it too.  EO tries to keep guessing but he is no where near close to figuring it out.  OH and that he would get the gift before winter.  So he is thinking he is going to have to wait a long time and it is making him crazy...ok, a little crazy.  But after talking to the kids last night, we will most likely have it all done by the end of the week. 

I am sooooooooooooo tired today.  i didn't want to get up, but we had to leave so early yesterday I didn't get to do my personal morning worship.  So I just had to get at it this morning.  But I think that is all I am going to manage today and I will be back in bed soon.  Yesterday was just so brutal for me and I am spent!  My digestive track was so bad last night.  Plus I got really dehydrated.  We had picked up some gatorade while we were at walmart and i started chugging it.  I'm still a bit dry, so I will be working on that today.  For now, I am off to bed.