changes
Posted by Robyn Nelson on Wednesday, February 26, 2014
This year, we are going through a great many changes. Big changes, emotional changes, stressful changes, and so on. EO is already pretty emotional about some of the changes. Steph asked me today how I felt about what was going to be happening in the next few months. I'm actually ok. Since I was a kid (loosing my dad) that life has never ending changes, I knew when I had a family of my own, there would be constant changes, and I actually look forward to those changes when I got married. and the change of when I was first pregnant. And the change of more children, the change of them going to school, and so on. I looked forward to each change and prepared myself in advance. I also knew there maybe times when the changes where not good ones. And although some were painful, I knew there could be changes for improvement.
We had made the decision to start a family right away, so that when they all move out we will still be young enough to be able to be able to do what we want to do... well, not just what we want to do as a couple, but we can do things with our adult children. And young enough to enjoy our grand kids. Quite truthfully, we didn't think we would still be here in the old system at this point. But in either case I really look forward to just being a couple again.
Mom is changing as well. We feel she can no longer live alone, but she is terrified of being sent to a nursing home. LIKE TODAY!!!!!!!!!!! She fell out of her chair and knocked herself out. When she came to, she pressed her lifeline, because she couldn't get up. The EMT's went in and got her up and checked her out carefully. They felt she didn't need to go into the hospital and they helped mom get into bed. Which is precisely why we have been talking about what we were going to do with her for a number of months and looking into what would be the best thing to do for her.
Well, at first both girls were thinking about moving mom to Superior and they would both be there to take care of her. But, after a great deal of prayerful consideration, it has all been figured out. Just Lauren will live with mom. This week they have made calls and picked up applications and are looking for a place to rent in Superior. They hope they will be able to move by May 1st. Lauren will still work and take care of her, but she just got a job at Walmart yesterday. They will call her to let her know what day she starts. By the time she finishes her schooling she plans to either transfer into the pharmacy at Walmart, or she will go over to Walgreens. I know mom can be tough to handle at times, so Lauren being able to go to work (part time) at Walmart or where ever, will be her escape. So we will have to have a "going away" party to plan for.
Steph and Colton also have plans of their own, but I am not at liberty to talk about them at this point.
Well, EO & I might be making some changes as well. We wouldn't leave the area or anything, but we would be able to simplify in a large way.
I actually think with all that we are enduring right now with the stress of watching Carol fade away, some major changes would help distract us mentally & emotionally.
The thing with moving mom to Superior is it will make it easier for her family from up north to see her more often. Including making it easier for her sister to help take care of her. And, it really won't be harder for Anne to go to Superior and help take care of her. Being in Superior will be easier on Lauren to help take care of other things for mom as well. Why doesn't Lauren just live with mom here in Solon? Her rent would go up to much. Lauren needs to work on a career apart from caring for her Grandma, as we just don't know how much longer we will have her here either... which is why she is doing the schooling. But also it would make it easier for all involved if she was in Superior.
This then means EO's job would come to an end, working for my mom. But with Steph's new job and Lauren moving, EO will pick up their hours (they have working for me). Lauren said she wouldn't mind coming back to Solon someday. Since there is now a pharmacy in Minong, she could try to get a job there...but that is down the road, it is altogether possible that the new system could be here before then.
We had made the decision to start a family right away, so that when they all move out we will still be young enough to be able to be able to do what we want to do... well, not just what we want to do as a couple, but we can do things with our adult children. And young enough to enjoy our grand kids. Quite truthfully, we didn't think we would still be here in the old system at this point. But in either case I really look forward to just being a couple again.
Mom is changing as well. We feel she can no longer live alone, but she is terrified of being sent to a nursing home. LIKE TODAY!!!!!!!!!!! She fell out of her chair and knocked herself out. When she came to, she pressed her lifeline, because she couldn't get up. The EMT's went in and got her up and checked her out carefully. They felt she didn't need to go into the hospital and they helped mom get into bed. Which is precisely why we have been talking about what we were going to do with her for a number of months and looking into what would be the best thing to do for her.
Well, at first both girls were thinking about moving mom to Superior and they would both be there to take care of her. But, after a great deal of prayerful consideration, it has all been figured out. Just Lauren will live with mom. This week they have made calls and picked up applications and are looking for a place to rent in Superior. They hope they will be able to move by May 1st. Lauren will still work and take care of her, but she just got a job at Walmart yesterday. They will call her to let her know what day she starts. By the time she finishes her schooling she plans to either transfer into the pharmacy at Walmart, or she will go over to Walgreens. I know mom can be tough to handle at times, so Lauren being able to go to work (part time) at Walmart or where ever, will be her escape. So we will have to have a "going away" party to plan for.
Steph and Colton also have plans of their own, but I am not at liberty to talk about them at this point.
Well, EO & I might be making some changes as well. We wouldn't leave the area or anything, but we would be able to simplify in a large way.
I actually think with all that we are enduring right now with the stress of watching Carol fade away, some major changes would help distract us mentally & emotionally.
The thing with moving mom to Superior is it will make it easier for her family from up north to see her more often. Including making it easier for her sister to help take care of her. And, it really won't be harder for Anne to go to Superior and help take care of her. Being in Superior will be easier on Lauren to help take care of other things for mom as well. Why doesn't Lauren just live with mom here in Solon? Her rent would go up to much. Lauren needs to work on a career apart from caring for her Grandma, as we just don't know how much longer we will have her here either... which is why she is doing the schooling. But also it would make it easier for all involved if she was in Superior.
This then means EO's job would come to an end, working for my mom. But with Steph's new job and Lauren moving, EO will pick up their hours (they have working for me). Lauren said she wouldn't mind coming back to Solon someday. Since there is now a pharmacy in Minong, she could try to get a job there...but that is down the road, it is altogether possible that the new system could be here before then.
